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Friday, 4 October 2013

I Don't Have the Words to Describe Neil Cole


  • I wrote this 'poem' for my most excellent friend Neil Cole's funeral. He died suddenly leaving behind a beautiful wife Jo, a young son, Jonny and a fabulous mother, Maureen along with everyone else. I sent Jo the working first draft and she liked it so much that she wouldn't allow me to change a thing. For that I am eternally grateful. My son, Toby read it at the funeral because I would not have got out the first word, let alone the whole thing.



I Don’t Have the Words to Describe Neil Cole

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use TALL – that always featured quite highly in our dafter moments – he was my ‘crick in your neck’ person – even when sitting, he was taller than me standing

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use BLACK – yeah and that includes his mood of course, but when I first met Neil, he was dressed in black, his Johnny Cash look – an interesting person I thought and then he adopted me, and my kids and loaned me his mum and dad, selflessly – I remember thinking – well, there’s more to this man than height

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use GIANT or BFG as Toby and Kim would say, but without all the slather and beanstalks – with giant arms that would wrap right around anyone in their times of need – arms that will be missed by all who knew him

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use HUSBAND and FATHER or even MAN IN LOVE – Trust me – you should have seen the state of Neil when he fell for Jo, then between them they made Jonny – husband, father and man in love were invisibly tattooed all over his 6feet 7inch frame.

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use FRIEND – for more years than I care to remember, I have been proud to call him friend – I still call him friend. Death will not part us – will not part him from Jonny and Jo and Maureen and everyone here in this church right now – he may have died, but he lives on, in me, in you, in all of us

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use MISSING - I’m missing the sound of his voice, I’m missing the countless facebook status updates, I’m missing the photos, I’m missing the laughter, but most of all I’m missing the stableness that comes from a man so giving that he would take away everyone’s pain right here right now if he could and take it all onto himself

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use ANGEL - a man with the biggest heart that regardless of its silence on earth, beats like a drum in heaven – I reckon he is the tallest angel ever!

I don’t have the words to describe Neil Cole

I could use LESSER and IMPROVED - The earth is a lesser place without Neil on it, but Heaven is greatly improved